Gold Star & Demerit: 6.18.2017

For years I wanted to do a Gretchen Rubin-style “Happiness Project“. When I was experienced my first bout of depression I didn’t realize what was happening and I obsessively read everything I could find on positive psychology and happiness research, with the aim of trying to figure out what I was doing wrong so I could fix it. I now realize that one can’t necessarily “fix” clinical depression and anxiety disorders, but I’ve developed better coping skills and built a stronger support network. It’s a constant work in progress, but hopefully will help ease the rest of my time on this planet.

While I’m not ready to launch into a full Happiness Project at the moment, I do want to copy one element from her podcast – Gold Stars and Demerits – and start awarding them in my life. Gold Stars are for things that increase happiness, and Demerits are for things that decrease happiness – not just to complain or beat myself up, but to “identify the problem” so I can make positive changes.

Gold Star: this undoubtedly goes out to some faithful friends who have been inviting me to social activities with them. Nothing big – just meeting for a meal, or getting together for crafting, etc. It helps me get out of the house (and out of my head!). I haven’t been able to say yes to every invitation, but even receiving an invite is quite lovely.

Demerit: Ugh, job hunting. Definitely job hunting. I’m currently on the hunt, and everyone knows it’s one of the toughest things to do. My particular demerit is because I let my anxiety take over, so I don’t put in as much time on it as I should, and then I beat myself up over that. So this week’s goal is to do at least a short bit of work on it EVERY DAY and then stop beating myself up.

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